Someone reversed (slowly) in to me - what would you do?

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judderman

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Hi All,

So I live in a bit of a scumbag area, and have a camera trained on my coupe 24/7. My neighbour reversed in to my car - she's old and infirm, but also is a grumpy old unfriendly cow.

I know it's not a big impact, and I probably sound a bit more surprised in the video than I ought to have been, but the fact that I was seeing it live in front me was why I was surprised. Anyway, I'm sure like anyone else here, I don't like anyone touching my car...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mbLBkeonLw4&feature=youtu.be

As I've said, she is old and infirm and I know I should be more tolerant of the elderly (we're all heading that way), but feck it - she is a downright pest. She drives on the footpath if there is no parking outside her house, so she doesn't have to use a walking aid. ACCEPT THE FACT YOU ARE OLD AND INFIRM - get a bloody walking aid. Nope, she stubbornly decides to block the footpath for mothers/children/anyone who has to use it.

Contact the council to see about getting a reserved spot outside her house? Nope, drive in to my car instead.

Now, I haven't said anything to her yet, because this happened at 10pm last night, and I have been at work all day. I've looked at the front of my car and from what I can see, there is no damage (just a lot of flies :D). The car does jolt - could this type of impact cause me any problems? I'm definitely not looking to rip the piss out of an old (grumpy) lady but at the same time, I hate the fact that she hit my car, and never bothered to say anything!

I am going to say to her that I saw her do it, and to try and refrain from doing it in future. I'm not looking for a fight. At the same time, I know I need to be sensitive to the fact she is old/infirm and I don't want to be threatening in any way- that doesn't however mean she can do whatever the flip she wants.

Thoughts?
 
If no damage has been done, i would just brush it under the carpet.
I know its bad but i dont think its worth the hassle TBH. It does annoy me though how some old people definatly shouldnt be on the road, i think all over 65's should redo your test at the cost of the DVLA. (first test free) I bet 90% of people would fail !
 
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Mate, first thing I would do is report it, I am sorry but if she can do this without knowing or doing something like this period, what about kids in the street etc? I work with vulnerable people and we strive to ensure they have the same rights as me and you, this includes being responsible!

I would report this to the plod and advise them of your concerns i.e. others safety, not to mention I would also be getting my car checked out, it looked like it moved a bit. Good luck mate, take out the fact she is old and look at what she did, she hit and run! :thumbsdown:
 
Wait 24 hours and if she says nothing, simply report it to the police as leaving the scene of an accident.

IMO, it doesn't matter who she is or whether there was damage or not.
If she hasn't got the decency to inform you and let YOU decide if something should be done, then she leaves you with one option.
Report her now, before she does something worse to your pride and joy (or even someone elses).

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I'd tell her that you saw her do it and luckily there's no damage 'this time' but would she please be more careful in the future.
.....If she goes off on one tell her big brother is watching her and if it happens again the boys will pay her a visit at the dead of night and teach her a lesson!! :evil:
 
This really hacks me off!

Yes she's old and we should bear that in mind....but she should have done the decent thing and came to you and said sorry. You would have gone out and looked at your car and realising that there was no damage...no harm, no foul.

An old guy reversed into my X6 around a month a go but he did the right thing and left a note of his phone number. Final bill came to £2,500 which his insurance picked up.

By contrast some fecker let their trolley go in a supermarket car park which trundled into my Z4. Cost me £120 to repair as there was no note left.

Why can't people just take more care, or alternatively, responsibility for their actions.
 
R3AP4R said:
Hi

Mate, first thing I would do is report it, I am sorry but if she can do this without knowing or doing something like this period, what about kids in the street etc? I work with vulnerable people and we strive to ensure they have the same rights as me and you, this includes being responsible!

I would report this to the plod and advise them of your concerns i.e. others safety, not to mention I would also be getting my car checked out, it looked like it moved a bit. Good luck mate, take out the fact she is old and look at what she did, she hit and run! :thumbsdown:
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OK so i work as a liability claims handler for many years and firstly whether or not you can see damage doesn't mean there inst any! the car clearly jolts backwards meaning that crumple areas of the front bumper have now been weakened and my not work as this should in a full speed collision!

secondly, she has committed a criminal act by leaving the scene of a motor accident, i think you are too bothered about how old this woman is and need to remember she has damaged your car and committed a crime by driving away hoping know one saw her! she knows she has hit your expensive car and is hoping she is going to get away with it!

lets face it she will have 400 years NCD anyway!

get the police called and show them the video and the get the phone to HER insurers and put a claim in directly with them!
 
Wash it and check it over properly mate. Or better still have BMW check it.

Somebody did the exact same to my 335 and it looked like nothing. Literally the same but not a neighbour, and off he drove.

On closer inspection the impact had stretched the plastic bumper enough to leave a permanent scar in the plastic which was only noticeable at certain angles.

I reported it to the police and it turned out to be a well known private cab firm who offered to pay for the repair.

The bumper had to be removed, heated up, and worked back into shape, then lightly filled and repainted.

It came to over £600! :o (at BMW) And it looked like nothing....

She'll have insurance too mate, this is what it's for.
 
hopz121 said:
If no damage has been done, i would just brush it under the carpet.
I know its bad but i dont think its worth the hassle TBH. It does annoy me though how some old people definatly shouldnt be on the road, i think all over 65's should redo your test at the cost of the DVLA. (first test free) I bet 90% of people would fail !
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Exactly , there's plenty of figures and statistics relating to young people involved in accidents , I'd love to see the same for the older generation , and I'm 49 by the way before anyone goes all pistonheads on the subject :D
Report it to the police , you would if I done it ?
 
lux said:
I'd tell her that you saw her do it and luckily there's no damage 'this time' but would she please be more careful in the future.
.....If she goes off on one tell her big brother is watching her and if it happens again the boys will pay her a visit at the dead of night and teach her a lesson!! :evil:
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I agree with this but give her some time to come clean. Be polite say you saw her hit your car if she tries denying it tell her its on CCTV and you can show her. If she starts kicking off just say its always recording and if it happens again you will be going straight to the police. I bet she will be very careful around your car in the future i pity the rest of your neighbors!!!
 
Get it checked out. If it needs work then speak to her and ask her to foot the bill. If she doesnt play ball then go through insurance.

If theres no damage I'd advise her as above you witnessed the incident and could she be more careful in the future as it could have been much worse. As it is, the impact is not as slow as I had expected when reading your post.
 
I don't think the fact that she's old and infirm really put you off from taking action.

Ok so you don't want to be aggressive about it or be 'all up in her face' but like others have said, simply say to her that you know it happenned and if she challenges you or starts on then confirm that you have footage that she is welcome to see.

You suggest that she is more careful in the future as it would be a real shame if you had to take further action in the event of another incident.
 
If she's a pain then report the accident and have the car checked out, have her foot the bill. Report her to the DVLA as well, she probably didn't notice the impact and shouldn't be driving.
 
hopz121 said:
i think all over 65's should redo your test at the cost of the DVLA. (first test free) I bet 90% of people would fail !
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Really sorry to hear what's happened - I agree with most that irrespective of her age she should have told you and she needs to be reminded of this formally.

I take it hopz21 you are a young whippersnapper - as an old git of nearly 66 who can still walk unaided and drive a powerful sports car - I think your proposal is a bit harsh and broadbrushed - I'm not aware of the official statistics but I would be surprised if the majority of accidents and speeding convictions relate to OAP's - older people ( at least around 65 to 70 tend to drive more carefully - it's the chav's and showoffs that need to retake tests :(

Hope the OP's car is undamaged.
 
Thanks everyone for your responses - plenty for me to think about!

I'm going to chat to her first this evening, just to let her know I saw her and I'd like her not to do this again. If she is a pain I'll let her know I have video evidence of her doing so.

I will be getting the car checked to see if there's any damage. I really didn't think something like this would do any damage, but better safe than sorry. Thanks for all your input! Will let you know how she reacts to my little visit this evening...
 
I am not sure about 65y/o's having to retake their tests, this lady is at least 80 though! :) She clearly relies on parking sensors as she can't turn around when reversing. I think she is a liability. I've seen her driving so close to my car on numerous occasions.

I haven't completely lost faith in humanity - once, I discovered a small hand written note, clearly old and weather battered, tucked in my bonnet with a phone number and a description of a small fender-bender that had happened.

The person offered to pay for the tiny ding they left in my rear bumper. I hadn't even noticed it! I rang them up and thanked them for their honesty, and left it at that. They were very nice, sounded like an older man.

This leaves a bad taste in my mouth however.
 
wash it, look at it, get it checked, if there is no damage or any issues and a few days have passed think about what to do then.

will saying anything do any good? she sounds a grump so possibly wont care, it may even cause you aggro if she has narkey kids who might take a grudge to you and the car.

in a few days and no damage you might just not care so much and want the hassle this could cause.

on the other hand you might still want to say some thing so approach it with care. she may not even know she did it and then your into a prove it argument, you'll have to admit to the camera being there which may get peoples backs up etc.

if there is damage then you should say something as she ought to pay through her insurance.
 
Without a doubt report it to the police. just because she is of mature years doesn't mean she can act with impunity, it might be a toddler playing in the street that she runs over next time.
 
gov said:
hopz121 said:
i think all over 65's should redo your test at the cost of the DVLA. (first test free) I bet 90% of people would fail !
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Really sorry to hear what's happened - I agree with most that irrespective of her age she should have told you and she needs to be reminded of this formally.

I take it hopz21 you are a young whippersnapper - as an old git of nearly 66 who can still walk unaided and drive a powerful sports car - I think your proposal is a bit harsh and broadbrushed - I'm not aware of the official statistics but I would be surprised if the majority of accidents and speeding convictions relate to OAP's - older people ( at least around 65 to 70 tend to drive more carefully - it's the chav's and showoffs that need to retake tests :(

Hope the OP's car is undamaged.
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Yea maybe that was a bit unfair of me, I'm no young whippersnapper but I'm not old either, but the amount of times i have seen people driving who shouldn't be driving makes me wonder what can be done to improve things, i was just stating my opinion I'm not saying that it is right or wrong, i also think that new drivers should have to go on the motorway to pass their test as well, but thats for another thread. Sorry if i offended you i didn't mean any harm. :)
 
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