Look what my son did to my new Z4
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Speechless Wow that is harsh proper mixed up kid to do that much damage hope he gets some help.Sure things will right themselves and at the end of the day it's a car which can be replaced.can you not garage your replacement so this can't happen again.Also as someone said earlier defo buy back from insurance as you will recoup some funds and also be the donor for some other poor zeds needing help then at least you will know you are saving lives (cars)lol joking aside hope you and yours are ok and keep safe op good luck for the future 
Desperate for all concerned - especially after you've tried and supported him. Not surprised you're feeling a little bewildered and sad over this much loss.
However, plenty of Zeds about and they are getting more and more affordable. You might approach the task of finding a replacement as a distraction even though it's loss is caused by your son and his problems. Try and keep the two separate - there's no doubt he's taken out his feelings on the Zed but don't let that affect your enjoyment of Zed ownership, it's a different thing altogether. I hope you get some respite and enjoyment from your replacement Zed and can put this behind you over time - which in my experience is the great healer.
As for what to have done under the circumstances - absolutely the best thing is to have left him at that point - you've already done your bit - so good you didn't end up complicating matters by physical action. You'll replace your Zed much more easily than repairing you and your sons situation if things had got even worse.
Hope you get some peace with this soon and all the best. (I've got 5 kids and 3 step kids . . . . issues issues. . .)
However, plenty of Zeds about and they are getting more and more affordable. You might approach the task of finding a replacement as a distraction even though it's loss is caused by your son and his problems. Try and keep the two separate - there's no doubt he's taken out his feelings on the Zed but don't let that affect your enjoyment of Zed ownership, it's a different thing altogether. I hope you get some respite and enjoyment from your replacement Zed and can put this behind you over time - which in my experience is the great healer.
As for what to have done under the circumstances - absolutely the best thing is to have left him at that point - you've already done your bit - so good you didn't end up complicating matters by physical action. You'll replace your Zed much more easily than repairing you and your sons situation if things had got even worse.
Hope you get some peace with this soon and all the best. (I've got 5 kids and 3 step kids . . . . issues issues. . .)
Wow, bulmor, that's really bad news on so many levels! As others have said, bad enough when it's a stranger damaging your P&J, worse when it's someone you know, and for it to be close family beggars belief!
Good luck with the search, and hope your son gets himself into a better place soon!
Good luck with the search, and hope your son gets himself into a better place soon!
After going through 10 years+ of torture/abuse from someone, one thing I learned was a bit of healthy paranoia. The first thing I thought of was that this is a public forum/thread. I'd be concerned that your son may read what's been written by you and others here, and it may incite him to react.
As I said, maybe a bit of paranoia, but anyone can read this thread.
Take care, I hope you can work through this and move on with life - a replacement Z4 would be great, but can you not secure it anywhere?
Best of luck.
As I said, maybe a bit of paranoia, but anyone can read this thread.
Take care, I hope you can work through this and move on with life - a replacement Z4 would be great, but can you not secure it anywhere?
Best of luck.
Jesus christ. I cant even imagine what is worse, having your car demolished like this or having such a troublesome relation with your child (ok obviously the latter one but still...)
I dont understand why someone would want to hurt his dad so much. Its just way too far away from my own psyche/thought processes.
I dont understand why someone would want to hurt his dad so much. Its just way too far away from my own psyche/thought processes.
Very sorry to see this OP and hope you can all sort things out eventually.
Resonates with me and something I did to my dad's car when I was 16. I'll spare the full details, not wanting to detract attention from your own situation OP, but suffice to say and with the intervention of third-party specialists and through communication channels that didn't exist before, that we managed to sort it all out eventually.
I hope that if you decide to press charges that the courts will see fit to give him a probation order supported by knowledgable and supportive probation officers/case workers as I and my parents benefitted from.
Resonates with me and something I did to my dad's car when I was 16. I'll spare the full details, not wanting to detract attention from your own situation OP, but suffice to say and with the intervention of third-party specialists and through communication channels that didn't exist before, that we managed to sort it all out eventually.
I hope that if you decide to press charges that the courts will see fit to give him a probation order supported by knowledgable and supportive probation officers/case workers as I and my parents benefitted from.
OMG I'm shocked - I can't imagine how you feel.....but I think most people on here feel for you.
I'm going to be a little optimistic - in some ways the damage is better than accident damage - you know that nothing is out of line as a result of heavy impact. Straight panels in your colour do come up for sale quite often and for not a lot of money and some do not need repainting; and are all bolt on bolt off so it might well be saveable by the insurance; by yourself or with help from other members.
I'm going to be a little optimistic - in some ways the damage is better than accident damage - you know that nothing is out of line as a result of heavy impact. Straight panels in your colour do come up for sale quite often and for not a lot of money and some do not need repainting; and are all bolt on bolt off so it might well be saveable by the insurance; by yourself or with help from other members.
i see marius' post including the statement 'great parenting skills' and my justifiably angry response to marius' post have been removed (by the mods ?)
speaking for myself, jamie z (who has also previously suggested this ) and many others here, i sincerely hope the moderators have seen fit once and for all to ban this insensitive, obnoxious tosspot?
There's a line between respecting free speech, being a worthy contributing member and being an insensitive, arrogant tw@t and marius has demonstrated yet again that he is most definitely on the wrong side of that line.
speaking for myself, jamie z (who has also previously suggested this ) and many others here, i sincerely hope the moderators have seen fit once and for all to ban this insensitive, obnoxious tosspot?
There's a line between respecting free speech, being a worthy contributing member and being an insensitive, arrogant tw@t and marius has demonstrated yet again that he is most definitely on the wrong side of that line.