Hi again,
Always impatient I have duly soldered and installed the circuitry and am pleased with the result - thanks again to all for the info.
In case anyone else stumbles upon this thread with questions similar to mine I thought I might as well post what I found.
On the issue of tantalum and polarity, I have read lots of comments from people suggesting that tantalum makes for a poor coupling capacitor due to degradation if exposed to a reverse voltage (apparently they "can handle only a few percent of rated voltage"). I'm not sure exactly what voltages the caps will be exposed to from an audio source, presumably small enough for this to not be too big of an issue (I couldn't even measure it with my standard multimeter). Electrolytic capacitors seem to be commonly suggested for audio applications instead. Wikipedia also has some interesting info on thermal runaway in tantalum caps.
Regarding the capacitance value,
http://diy.ecpaudio.com/p/some-notes-on-coupling-capacitors.html:
Coupling caps, together with input and output impedances, create high pass filters. This means that frequencies above a certain point are passed while those below are not...capacitors will also induce phase distortions in frequencies up to about 10x higher than the 3db point.
Presumably this is the root of the bass loss. I understand that the larger the capacitance the lower the cut off frequency with 4.7uF being a commonly chosen value.
From:
http://headphonehaven.com/topic/7120097/1/
the 2.2uF fairs better for instrumental pieces while the 4.7uF fairs better for most music especially vocals.
I would take the 2.2uF for my classical or instrumental songs and the 4.7uF for any other genre.
Although my cable sounds OK, if I were building the circuit again I would be keen to try a pair of 4.7uF electrolytic capacitors to see how the sound differed.
Finally regarding the little cone in the ashtray, you can remove the metal plate on which it is installed by simply pulling it vertically out of the ashtray tray. It is held in by two little metal barbs which clip into the plastic tray at the sides. I found that this allowed me to run the cable under the tray and through the bulb window (without any drilling) and to store the 3.5mm jack in the ashtray cone when not in use.
Apologies for the lengthy post but I hope it may help someone else. If any electronics buffs have any thoughts on the above I would be keen to read your thoughts.
SaveTheKakapo