I don’t think you’ll get it anywhere near as compliant as the others you’ve mentioned, except maybe close to the M3.
Even compared to the M3, I think you’re finding a combination of issues really:
- higher torsional rigidity
- shorter wheelbase
- sitting right over the rear wheels
- thinly-cushioned seats
My mates CSL with Recaro buckets feels more compliant than my Z4MC, and is much more fun to drive at 9/10ths on a bumpy B-road than a standard Z4MC, and I’d have gone for one of them if I hadn’t been planning on putting 150k miles on it.
Coversely, when I tried an e9x M3, it felt like a blancmange compared to the Z4MC - and seemed to take a long time to settle into a steady position on corners, so you had to turn earlier than you’d expect - felt more like my lardy e34 M5, which is both a good thing (for an autobahn stormer) and a bad thing (for a fast-road/track sports coupe).