some time life gets you down!!!

You know, maybe my experience has been that bad, but I can somehow relate to your situation - or to empathise at least.

My mother developed schizophrenia back in '98. It was sudden, and not all of us instantly realised the transition.

Even now, out of the blue, she can say things like "you've sold your mother for a bottle of beer" (when seeing me having a pint with the father) or - better - "it's convenient for you to move into his apartment" to my future wife!

Next day she can be completely agreeable and kind, so it is extremely hard not take it all personally and remember that she does not mean it. It's an emotional roller-coaster for all of us involved, anyway.

C'est la vie.

PS
She unswervingly loves my cars.
 
Machine monkey said:
Thanks again for the kind words and great advice.

There is a lot hear for me to think about. Not only to make sure i am ok. But also to help my mum.

It was a doom and gloom post. Be i am generally a happy guy. I don't feel my life is falling apart. But this has been going on to long. I would really like my mum to be happy and enjoy life a bit more. And for my own reasons i want to know i have done all i can to help.

Thanks again everyone.
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Monkey just because you spoke about your mum nobody thinks you are an unhappy git who sits with his head in his hands.
We can see you're not like that at all but that doesn't mean you don't have your down days, as do we all for one reason or another and it's credit to the people on this forum that you feel you can post about it.
It's a situation you've got to deal with for your mum and also for yourself and your family and it's not going to be easy but there's help out there for her and that in turn will help you.
It'll come good, I'm sure of it. :)
 
Depression is a terrible thing to suffer and often terribly misunderstood. I hope things brighten up for you both. Have you thought about investigating some charities/support networks that might be able to provide support to your mum in a different way? I'm not sure what there is out there but there might be something.
 
Thanks

Well popping round to see her tonight. And i don't feel as uptight about it so that good. Also i feel armed and able to offer some advice about where we can look for help.

Monkey
 
Sorry to hear you are a bit down in the dumps, everyone has shitty times (well, some more than others) and it helps to not bottle it all up. Unfortunately the only advice I can give you, isnt to wear sun screen...

its to remember one thing -

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Actually add these to the list:

When you are feeling down;

-Don't drink alcohol on your own
-Don't listen to Eminiem
-Don't put on a front, if you are feeling s**t - just cancel some stuff and take some time (i find that going and trying to put on a brave face makes things worse)
-If you are getting really down, go and see your GP - they might be able to offer you some advice
 
Buddy forget me sounds like your going through a hell of a time! I lost my Dad five years ago. I miss him every day and its very difficult but it gets better. When i think of him now i more often than not have a little chuckle about something he said or something we had done together. We are all buddy's and mates on hear and we are willing to help. Its been said by many best forum on the interweb.
 
This thread only goes to show, that apart from the aesthetically pleasing lump of Metal, Glass, Rubber and Plastic that brings us all together and culminates into a forum, most dear to us are the people we love and care about. No words of advice from me MM, but a Thanks for posting what is a heartfelt subject and has enriched the ethos and members of this forum.
 
Jonny essex said:
Matt your a great guy and im sorry to hear that, its great after my post about my heart being broken that we can all open up to one another, we may not have ever met most of us on here but were all friends and with my Step dad died two days ago as well i am a f***ing mess but we have to stay strong just like you do, were all here for you if you need us buddy. :)
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JE, I'm so sorry to hear that. Sending you massive hugs.
 
I had an issue with my mother abusing a sleep aid (ambian) after the suicide of her partner. She was on that crap for 8 years. It effects the same part of the brain that alcohol effects. She had been kicked out of two senior retirement apt's and set the second one on fire. I had had enough. I did as Dr Nick suggested. I made an appointment with my moms GP and had a nice chat with him. He put a notation in her file along with a warning protocol that goes out to the pharmacy's and other doctors. Thus preventing her from doctor shopping for drugs. That did the trick. But it was tough love. And as the wife and I are in Germany for a few years. She finally realized that she had to grow up. Or face being forced into an assisted living facility. Which none of us wanted.
 
Grizzly9 said:
This thread only goes to show, that apart from the aesthetically pleasing lump of Metal, Glass, Rubber and Plastic that brings us all together and culminates into a forum, most dear to us are the people we love and care about. No words of advice from me MM, but a Thanks for posting what is a heartfelt subject and has enriched the ethos and members of this forum.
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^^^ this is one of the many things I love about this forum :thumbsup:

Chin up MM - I think you've had plenty of very good advice on here, so all I'll say is that we've all to a greater or lesser degree gone through heartache and sorrow in our lives, and unfortunately it never ends - but it is always oddly reassuring when we do talk about it and realise we're not alone... That's one thing I constantly forget. Hard times make us stronger though, if we listen to good advice, take help where it is offered and look after ourselves at the same time.

To be honest I was humbled when I read your first post - in the time I have been here I don't think anyone else has made such an immediate, helpful, positive and ongoing contribution to this forum. To think that you've done that, fought our way through rejuvenating your Z, stayed strong with Mrs Monkey AND been dealing with all this - awesome. You'll be just fine :wink:
 
Carol M said:
Jonny essex said:
Matt your a great guy and im sorry to hear that, its great after my post about my heart being broken that we can all open up to one another, we may not have ever met most of us on here but were all friends and with my Step dad died two days ago as well i am a f***ing mess but we have to stay strong just like you do, were all here for you if you need us buddy. :)
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JE, I'm so sorry to hear that. Sending you massive hugs.
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x2 :( (but with manly, brief contact hugs only, of course)
 
I can't add anything that hasn't already been said. But good luck to you, your Mum and your Mrs and I hope the situation improves for all of you :)
 
Hope all goes well for you and your mum
My wife works in this field and echoed what Rliu posted some good advice there mate

Si-forks is tapatalking
 
Interesting reading what everyone has wrote and a lot of good advice for you to look at and I'm sure you will know what you can or can't try for your situation. Fall outs in families are the worse thing to happen and always end up the hardest to get back on track. Best of luck Monkey :)
 
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