Losing a parent

[Anonymous]

My dad died 22 years ago when I was 16 but my mum sadly passed away this morning. Not sure how I feel currently.

How do we get through after losing a parent? I took a video of my kids playing in the garden today and realised I had no-one to send it to

 

[Smartbear]

My dad died 22 years ago when I was 16 but my mum sadly passed away this morning. Not sure how I feel currently.

How do we get through after losing a parent? I took a video of my kids playing in the garden today and realised I had no-one to send it to

sorry to hear this Greg, try & keep the video until your kids are old enough to appreciate it themselves mate.
Rob

 

[Worcester_spoon]

Super sad to hear this news. Can’t begin to imagine how tough it is. No answers for you, just my sympathies and a virtual hug.

 

[NickDE]

Condolences.
My mum died 17 years ago. On the whole you just keep going and time heals. But at key moments it comes back. This week I videoed my daughter walk the stage at her graduation and then couldn't send it to my mum . So everyone else got it instead !

 

[mr wilks]

a path ive yet to walk but can well imagine how it impacts you & your children

 

[Smartbear]

It’s different to your loss but i lost my mrs when i was 36, you gradually learn to live with it and carry on with life.
Rob

 

[ronk]

Although I’m old and grey I still miss my old mum who died eight years ago.
I would say that you will always get a bit watery eyed at times, it’s only natural and nobody with think less of you.

Just try and remember the good times with respect and fondness,

 

[paddy wright]

So sorry for your loss

 

[buzyg]

It's hard but you just get through the best you can and time slowly lightens the grey weight pushing on your shoulders. No consultation for you, but my mum also died recently. The reason I pulled out of the national meet in fact. I just could not face driving up North past her old flat, so soon after. Stick in there, life will never be quite the same, but the weight will lift and you and your family will push the next generation forward. :wink:

 

[Mr Tidy]

Very sad news Greg.

It's just over 20 years since my Dad passed away, but I still remember felling mostly just numb for the first week or so.

Then it starts to sink in, and you just deal with each day one at a time.

Wishing you all the best.

 

[markplant]

Sorry

 

[maxman]

Feel for you at this sad time.

 

[road warrior]

I had lost both of my parents by 1979, so can i suggest you hang on to your memories and they will live on inside you.

 

[IRD]

Sorry to read of your loss. As RONK writes try to remember the good times. It will get easier in time but right now it won’t feel like that.

 

[Jollyjoiner]

Sorry for your loss, it's a sad time for you but the memories will always be with you.

 

[mr.tourette]

Sorry to hear this mate, there is no easy way to get through it, hold on to the good memories and always remember she lives on through you and yours

 

[Chippie]

So sorry for your loss, my only consolation is that a part of her lives on in you and your children, the values she held have been passed on to you making you the person you are today

 

[dr_john]

Sympathies to you friend.

My dad died 22 years ago and my mum died 2 years ago at the age of 97. Still miss them both, especially dad, I feel there were a lot of conversations that we never had, he was always the voice of reason and wisdom

 

[SpiketheBike]

So sorry for your loss.
My Dad died 21 years ago. My mum 11. Whilst I miss them both still, it was my mum dieing I found the hardest. Not because she was my mum, but because with both parents gone, I felt I'd really lost a huge link with my past.
Hope you are okay, grief is very personal. Take care.

 

[Marlon]

I work Saturdays at a hospice counselling the bereaved and the pre-bereaved and can say that each person experiences loss differently, however a common theme is what you've mention in your post – the loss is heart-breaking as you realise the joy you feel at the simple things in life can no longer be shared with the loved one.
Your kids playing in the garden is life continuing, and just as they innocently enjoy the moment you may in time find you own peace.
As many here will attest to, we never really get through or over losing a loved one but rather the loss is incorporated into who we are and changes us. Life is uncompromising and relentless, it presents us with cold harsh realities that we don’t want and can't change; those facts we can do nothing about, but facing them changes us and I’ve seen time and time again that it is possible to move forward with hope and purpose even in the face of life’s brutalities.
This is the human spirit that I've been privileged to have witnessed in so many clients – in the face of unimaginable heartache and loss we can find the strength to carry on and find peace for ourselves and for those who are sharing life’s journey with us.
Your mum is sadly departed, but ask yourself what she would have wanted for her grandchildren and for you - indeed for all those she has left behind. You can't share the video of your kids with her but you can live every moment with the joy and zest for life that she would have wanted. She is a part of you and everything you experience is a part of her; she lives on though you and through your children.
You and your children are here because of her and your father; they both live thorough you all so love this gift of life and cherish each and every moment.