I started something i though would make me happy (it didn't)

dario

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SOPPY WARNING

Today I started work on creating a video compilation based on my daughters first 21 years of her life. I was eagerly looking forward to paging through her and my families history and creating a short 15-20 min video of her life so far to present to her at her 21st birthday party in June.

How WRONG i was! Of course I'm happy to have relived moments of her life from birth to adulthood. Growing up and having a wonderful life filled with music and dance and enjoyment (least that my opinion), and of whom i am immensely proud of. But when reviewing the years of videos I'm starkly reminded of the family and friends we lost along the way. :(

Very little has bought me down to earth so quickly with such a stark reminder of the circle of life. I think that my semi retirement at 54 is a good thing and one i'm glad to have done. As the old joke goes, "nobody on their death bed wishes they had spent more time in the office". I've done my utmost not to emulate my fathers life that was filled with poverty, hard work, a World War, 2 jobs and few friends!

foot note:

My Dad is now 91 with failing health and he is a constant reminder that life is a one way journey, and a reminder of how not to have lived ones life given a choice. Although for the early part he had little choice in what was going on. He's from the generation that fought in the 2nd World War (Italian POW) captured on the russian front and held prisoner in Siberia for 2 years. I have no doubt that affected him greatly in the way he lived his life. He came to England to make a life for himself and his family 52 years ago and only knew hard work to support his family.

Bloody videos!

Dario
 
Just think the past is the past and it already happened. Don't repeat the past and work on the future :)
 
Don't be sad. After going through a period of illness a few years ago my philosophy of life changed, I chose to have less demanding work so I could make the most out of life. My motto is make sure you enjoy the present. That is all we have right now. No one knows what is around the corner. But worrying about that won't make today a better day so think of the positives and enjoy the moment.
 
Know what you mean about expecting to create something happy but it ending up putting you on a bit of a downer. I've always just tried to look at it in the "it's better to have those memories than to have nothing at all" sort of way.

Chin up!
 
Life has told me that it's all too easy to dwell on the past and have regrets - but you really have to look to the future and grasp life with both hands.
 
Dario, don't be sad looking backwards, be happy and grateful you had those people in your life and then look forwards and be excited and happy in anticipation of the potential good things in your future.
Yes, there'll be bad stuff, we can't avoid that but there'll be good stuff too. :)
 
Hi Guys, thanks for the kind words!

I'm feeling ok, and i have a great supportive wife to keep me on track when i get a little down. The point i was trying to make was that in the editing and reviewing of historic videos it was just a series of painful reminders of people that had left the family some time ago. I suppose its all to do with technology. Once, all we had were inert photos in an album. Now we have speech and video and its such a strong reminder of what / who the living person was.

I'm ok.

Thanks

Dario
 
Hi Guys, thanks for the kind words!

I'm feeling ok, and i have a great supportive wife to keep me on track when i get a little down. The point i was trying to make was that in the editing and reviewing of historic videos it was just a series of painful reminders of people that had left the family some time ago. I suppose its all to do with technology. Once, all we had were inert photos in an album. Now we have speech and video and its such a strong reminder of what / who the living person was.

I'm ok.

Thanks

Dario
 
I guess it all depends how you look at it? Memories really are priceless, for good AND bad. I would have loved my father or mother making me a video or even photo-album like that. But sadly I have almost no pictures or video's from my childhood. I remember a little from the past, but without a reminder now and then, it's hard to hold on to those memories. After a while you just forget. I'm always sad when I hear people telling stories from their childhood, with pictures and all. I can hardly remember anything.

Now I take loads of pictures at any occasion (people sometimes hate me for it, lol) but I'm happy to be able to look back at them later on, even if they include sad memories, because I know they include just as much and even more good memories...
 
nostalgia is bitter sweet
wallowing is part of the condition.
whatever this lot say
we have more behind us than in front.

:(


Which does at least tell us that it was okay or better.
:thumbsup:
 
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