I love my wife!

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Just seen her and she's doing fine. Awake but a bit drowsy. Saw the "result" of the op and I must say I am impressed! She's still drugged up so no pain at the moment. Still in recovery unit cos the ward had no beds! But it's ok cos she gets 1 on 1 care!

So pleased for her and proud of her for putting herself through it.

Coming back tomorrow afternoon, need sleep now...only an hours drive home!
 
Reading through your account - reassuring to hear some positive outcomes - every best wish to you both - wonderful title made me want to read. :thumbsup:
 
theblues said:
kevinmarkwhite said:
It is so unfair to watch her go through all this, cos she is a nurse, and spends her time looking after other people...this s**t should be reserved for murderers etc. But it isn't, so we just get on with it.
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I know how you feel, lost one of my best friends when we were 18 after a 7 year battle with cancer that had seen him lose a leg at 15.

Glad to here your wife is ok and let's hope this is the end of it and you can both move on :thumbsup:
 
I was in the same situation as you some 12 years ago, I know exactly what you are going through.

My best wishes to you.
 
Thanks again everyone for your kind words.

Woo7dy said:
Good to hear it went well, must be so worrying. I'd really struggle mentally to cope with what you and your wife are going through, really puts things into perspective. Like worrying about stupid silly things when I should just be living life to the max. Hoping for a speedy recovery and many years more happy marriage :)
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No you wouldn't....you'd be fine. When this happened my first reaction was anger - how could she get Cancer when she is a nurse, its so unfair. Then that passed and as we went through the process of treatment etc we were guided by the professionals and just got on with it.. You do have your quiet thinking time when you reflect, and I guess this can be difficult, but you turn your energy to getting through the treatment, and ticking off each chemo session etc. In a way I was lucky, cos I was (and still am) on happy pills (I was screwed up long before this!) and I think they numbed my reaction a bit. You and your partner pull together and fight through it. Ironically, it can make you stronger!

One thing that surprised us both when she was diagnosed and we started telling neighbours etc, was just how many people in our street had had it also! It is quite common by the looks of it. When Deb was off work she used to walk the dogs with this other lady who'd had it, so it was good support for her.

Lots of people are touched by cancer at some point, either a friend or relative etc. Its one of those things that you dont think will affect you..until it does. Its sad and such a cruel illness (like many illnesses!) and there seems no reason behind it. Already other people on this thread have mentioned they've had similar or worse experiences...I'm sorry for those who havent had successful outcomes.

The one thing that does help is just talking about it. I'm normally the sort to bottle things up, but you have to find an outlet or you'll go mad. For everyone that outlet will be different, for me talking to people and Deb about it helped.
 
All the best for the both of you. I hope all these messages have done what we all hope they would. Well done for getting it off your chest. It's something us blokes are not that good at. X
 
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