Families eh!!

[Nictrix]

Your a stronger man than me. Well done for your self control.
Personally I would cut all ties with him from here on.
As for the money coming out of your pocket and not the estate, how does he work that out?
His choice to stay 4-5 hours away, not yours, and also his choice what hotels he stayed in, not yours.
Hope he doesnt want his meals paid for as well as he might have had lobster every night.

 

[TitanTim]

Thanks guys, my brother is 9 years older at 59. I'm now starting to kick myself a little in paying the money and feel I should have taken the line by just offering to pay only his expenses and not his wives so only paying half of what he wanted but its just getting into silly tit for tat and don't really wish to go down that line. Like said, he chose where he lives, what hotel they stayed in etc so he has a barefaced cheek to say he's out of pocket.

Tim.

 

[Jasey]

If it's any consolation your brother looks like a saint compared to my sister!

You need to decide if you want to have anything to do with him from here on in and take it from there.

Good luck

ps My sister "started" by asking (demanding is more accurate) my Mum for petrol money for her two kids to come up for my Dad's funeral - Since then things have taken several turns for the much worse !

 

[cossied]

What a sad story to add to a sad time in your life. anybody who wants paying for visiting his mother for the last time in her life is not worth a damn. You probably wont hear much from again until the next bereavement and Will. Your conscience is clear that means a great deal at times like this.

 

[mattwaltersz4m]

Thanks guys, my brother is 9 years older at 59. I'm now starting to kick myself a little in paying the money and feel I should have taken the line by just offering to pay only his expenses and not his wives so only paying half of what he wanted but its just getting into silly tit for tat and don't really wish to go down that line. Like said, he chose where he lives, what hotel they stayed in etc so he has a barefaced cheek to say he's out of pocket.

Tim.

I wouldn't kick yourself Tim. It is done now and your reaction was to pay him. Its not a nice event in a horrible overall situation. Draw a line under it and move on. Don't think about it any more and live/enjoy your life.

 

[TitanTim]

Thanks guys, my brother is 9 years older at 59. I'm now starting to kick myself a little in paying the money and feel I should have taken the line by just offering to pay only his expenses and not his wives so only paying half of what he wanted but its just getting into silly tit for tat and don't really wish to go down that line. Like said, he chose where he lives, what hotel they stayed in etc so he has a barefaced cheek to say he's out of pocket.

Tim.

I wouldn't kick yourself Tim. It is done now and your reaction was to pay him. Its not a nice event in a horrible overall situation. Draw a line under it and move on. Don't think about it any more and live/enjoy your life.

Thanks Matt, yes will put it behind me and look forward, just makes me feel very sad at a time when you don't wish it to feel any worse

Tim.