Howdy ho from across the pond wankers. You're not alone in your transmission woes. I have an 07 M coupe, currently on my second transmission and looks like going on a 3rd one. Initially had progressively more frequent grinding when shifting from 1st to 2nd at high rpms, would stop the car and then be locked out of 1st to make matters worse. Now on the second transmission that problem is remedied, however now I get the same grinding, only when I downshift into 2nd at lower rpms is when it occurs. Dropped the car off again today and am curious to see what they can figure out....Lucky for them I love this car when it works as advertised.
In the meantime, for your viewing pleasure:
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