Anyone faced or dealing with 'possible' cancer?

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Maniac

Lifer
So a short while ago I had an eye checkup. All was clear but then the consultant saw something and I was told that I have an atypical mole (dysplastic Nevus or something like that) at the back of my eye and I'm now under investigation to see if it's benign or cancerous.

I've no qualms in confessing this has me worried and I've no experience or context to allow me to deal with this. It's properly new territory.

I wondered simply if anyone else here has faced similar and how they deal/dealt with it...?
 
No I havent fortunately, but 10 months ago my 12year old fit, sporty son experienced tingling in his legs that 3 weeks later left him paralysed from the waist down..
After 9 months in a wheelchair and all sorts of theories and diagnosis he woke up last Tuesday, his legs worked and he walked into our bedroom.
At no point did we ever give up on his physio exercises to maintain things or doubt that he would walk again.
Beleif and determination saw us through.

I would also say from experience that lots of Doctors just seem to tick boxes, so they cant be held negligent, rather than actually look for a cause and cure. Hopefully in your case they are doing the same and just covering their backsides and you will have nothing to worry about.

I would also advise NOT to google, as people, mainly post horror stories, not good news.

Good luck.
 
My wife had swollen lymph nodes in her neck last year, very scary when she got fast-tracked as a possible concer patient. Fortunately 2 biopsies later it was found to be nothing to worry about, just swelling that was much more obvious as she has such a slender neck, but for a while we were really worried. We read up, understood the implications and made very sure we did all we could to have it diagnosed fully. I was glad I didn't have to worry about wills and such as we'd done that the preceding September :oops:

As I told her, it's not cancer until they tell you it is, and if it is then many cancers are now treatable and in an increasing number of cases curable. Hope it works out ok - just remember that doctors always err well on the side of caution when it comes to anything that might indicate cancer.
 
Here's hoping it is benign
#5 is right medical profession should always err on side of caution :thumbsup:
 
Hope you will be OK, so hard not too worry or it being at the back of your mind.

If it were me I would try and keep things in perspective until you have definite results and hopefully its nothing serious. Hard I know but the more you dwell on uncertainties at the moment the worse it feels.

If you are really worried I would have thought there would be local support groups with people in a similar situation where cancer is a possibility who can help put your mind a rest.

Fingers crossed everything is OK for you.

Tim.
 
I'm so sorry you're going through this - I did go through a similar experience some years ago as a lot of people seem to these days - I had to wait several weeks before I knew it wasn't cancer but the waiting was horrendous - as soon as cancer is mentioned you naturally think the worse but the reality is research has advanced so much most cancers can be successfully treated .

I so hope you have good news mate.
 
I had cancer 3 years ago, it was caught at an early stage due to excellent routine screening programs that exist these days. After some fairly major surgery I was pronounced fit and well, today it's just a memory.

Just goes to show what can be done these days. I remember when I was going through my treatment being fairly terrified TBH but the love of my family and faith in the doctors and consultants gave me a lot of strength. It's not everyone's approach but I found that reading as much as I could about my condition and treatments helped me. Also remember that there are probably loads of benign conditions that could be responsible for what has been found in your case, the possibility that it is malignant is probably very remote.

You'll be fine mate :thumbsup:
 
Hi Maniac. I was diagnosed just before Christmas 99 with testicular cancer and thought, what a way to start the new millennium. Had my operation early January to remove the little bliter and a 3 week course of radio therapy followed. At no time did the docs hang about with treatment. From being first told about it I was always of the mind that this was not going to get me and did everything that was set me and never missed an appointment. 7 Years of follow up appointments continued with X-Rays and checkups and here we are today enjoying life to the full. Would not have missed the sunny top down days in the Z, for anything. Just keep positive and they (doctors) will do the rest.
 
Some people use black humour to deal with it - it is not always appropriate though









By the way what size boots do you take? :evil:
 
Cheers guys. The biggest worry is that it seems this particular issue is hard to treat, the balance being monitoring through to removal of the eye. :(
 
Maniac thoughts are with you mate. Not experienced anything like this myself but have had family members suffer with cancer. I can only imagine what is going on in your mind, but easy for me to say , try to stay positive, don't dwell to much on it until diagnosis comes through, and this is a hard one , stop looking it up online until you know for sure what it is. I don't have statistics but my hope and feeling is, the screening is so good these days there are for more scares ( which are not easy to deal with ) than actual negative outcomes. Best of luck buddy.
 
Maniac.

Thoughts with you I had several biopsies taken during a gall bladder removal and several investigations since and whilst so far the results have been classed "pre cancerous" I am still awaiting the result of the latest set of bits they stole from my intestines two,weeks ago..

I am too still awaiting a conclusive result so know very well how you feel.......

:( :( :(
 
Nelly Welly said:
Maniac.

Thoughts with you I had several biopsies taken during a gall bladder removal and several investigations since and whilst so far the results have been classed "pre cancerous" I am still awaiting the result of the latest set of bits they stole from my intestines two,weeks ago..

I am too still awaiting a conclusive result so know very well how you feel.......

:( :( :(
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I've been on that knife edge a lot myself over the last 3 years. Blood tests, CT scans, MRI scan, PET scan etc, I sometimes wish they would leave me alone, ignorance is bliss and all that.

However the pragmatic view is that these modern tools help to pinpoint the problems at an early enough stage to do something about it. The downside is increased stress and anxiety.

I've come to the conclusion that it's better to put up with a bit of anxiety if it's gonna save my life!

Chin up guys, positive attitude, enjoy life. :thumbsup:
 
Hi Maniac
I've been away getting older and only just seen this thread.
Sorry to hear your news but let's think positive and see where it gets.
I have also suffered from testicular cancer (twice) and when you first hear the words your world stops - as no doubt you found.
How you deal with it is up to you.
You can stick your head under a blanket and pretend everything is OK, or you can do as much Googling and questioning as you want to get answers.
I suspect you will be in the latter category and will no doubt be surprised how many other people are in a similar situation.
Back in 1983 when I was first diagnosed there wasn't a lot of internet around. Second time around in 1997 I had a 13"monitor that looked out into the world.
You will be surprised how much help there is out there - I even discovered a fellow school pupil from the 1970s who had suffered the same as me.
By asking questions you will also probably get more response from your medical team.
One of my Consultants said the most difficult part of his job was knowing how much detail his patients wanted or could tolerate. The more you want to know, the more they will open up.
Finally If it does turn out to be bad news, it may help to draw up a decision tree from the worst to the best scenario of outcomes. You can then focus on the positive!
Please let us know how you get o and oif you want any more info feel free to ask here or send me a PM

Good Luck!
Terry
 
Chin up.
My best mate has been fighting bowel and liver cancer for 3-4 years.
Apart from the obvious statutory treatments, the best thing my mate after his first bought of chemo failed, was to have some professional counciling which taught him to focus on positives. This put him in a much better frame of mind to deal with the more rigorous physical problems associated with treatments.
He's not out of the woods yet, but after 3 boughs of chemo, some other experimental stuff, good friends and family support and positive mental attitude, he seems to be winning his fight.
Let's hope yours is benign.
Good luck.
Andy
 
Nothing as bad as you guys but around the age of 10 I found out and had surgery to remove a soft tissue tumor right on the bottom of my heel. It was OK for awhile, but awhile back it grew back. I'm not sure when but I'm supposed to have another surgery to get it removed again. It sucks limping everywhere, not to mention my second job is more physical labor than desk work like my other job. :headbang: that and a torn ACL in my other legs knee that I'm going to physical therapy for. I was around 10 the first time I had the surgery and I'm 18 now, my advice would just do research and do all you can to get the treatment you need, but there isn't any sense stressing about it since there isn't anything you yourself can do about it that's all you can do.
 
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