Admend, hello..
IMHO if you have it that bad with potholes in NY then you need really two sets of actions..
You need to go to 17" wheels as they tend to be stronger AND the appropropriate tyres which have a much bigger sidewall.
We suffer where I live in the Scottish Borders with serious pothole damage, in part to longer, colder winters but mainly due to logging..by the time 2,000 40 tonne movements have gone through on a small road the destruction is significant.
So I run 17" alloy wheels with All Season tyres in winter and 18" wheels with pure summer tyres in Summer.
Over 4 years I've not had a cracked/dented rim despite extensive use in winter often at speed.
Most suppliers of alloy wheels here in the UK have standard disclaimers on using 19" wheels with low profile rubber on damaged roads.
Your problem is excacerbated by use of run flats as they have much stiffer sidewalls which transmit the shock of a pothole much more severely.
Forged wheels don't buy you anything as yes they are on a pound for pound weight stronger, but all that happens is that they reduce the weight for the same strength as a cast wheel..ie no improvement in shock resistance..just a lighter wheel, which does have other benefits.